2009 Year in Review

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Okay, so I steal this from Erin every year, but this time I’m going to edit it so I don’t look even more moony and pathetic. 2009 was kind of a single issue year for me. You’re welcome.

Edited to add: Apparently I edited out the question about “Anyone close to you give birth?” and I didn’t mean to. Gene’s best friend’s wife had a little girl in 2009. And in 2010, there are two new babies to welcome: my niece and Brandy’s second child (gender still TBD). Fraaaankly, I think there’s a third pregnancy lurking out there (and by “out there”, I do not mean “in here”). Fingers crossed!

1. What did you do in 2009 that you’d never done before?

Had an HSG, took a paycut, suspended my Fertility Friend membership, attended Gene’s family reunion.

2. Did you keep your new years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

Apparently my 2009 resolutions were the same as my 2008 resolutions: get pregnant, get a new job, read more books, fold laundry and reduce clutter. Hey, the laundry gets folded usually on time, I have been reading a little more, and we have a little less clutter than before. Gene says he wants to reduce clutter in 2010, so it looks like that’s one of our resolutions. For me, my resolutions will be the same as 2008-2009, but I will replace the first one with “finish my novel.”

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

Infertility and the Clomid Crazies (I was going to edit this one out, but this is a great band name).

11. What was the best thing you bought?

How about the things I didn’t buy? We paid off one of our credit cards this year, and hopefully the other will be paid off in 2011.

14. Where did most of your money go?

Doctors. Seriously. Between the baby chase and the Boy’s two (maybe more) surgeries, you do not want to know how much we paid to doctors, labs and hospitals.

19. Richer or poorer?

I don’t really know. I feel poorer – with the paycuts, we were down a lot of $ this year, but we have had some financial successes due to budgeting and being smarter financially (both of which were Gene’s idea – I must give him credit for that). We definitely (fortunately) have enough money to pay our bills but not quite enough to live on one salary.

20. What do you wish you’d done more of?

I wish I’d pressed for escalating the infertility issue sooner in 2009. I sincerely believe that if I’d done something other than twiddle my thumbs in the first half of the year… ugh, well, anyway.

21. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Reading BabyCenter, Baby Bargains and most of the mommy blogs I read (other than the Erins’ blogs).

22. How will you be spending Christmas?

So, I just realized that this question is referring to Christmas 2009, not to a future Christmas. Therefore, I will be spending Christmas 2009 with my family. If the question is really for 2010, I don’t know the answer to that one yet. Let’s assume we’ll be with family up in the Frozen North.

23. Did you fall in love in 2009?

With Dr. K – Alas, it was short lived.

24. Any one night stands?

YES! We finally have one night stand. I bought it at Home Goods but I could only find one 🙁 So, maybe next year we’ll have two night stands. I have been looking forward to this question since I bought the night stand.

25. What was your favorite TV program?


26. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

No one new.

27. What was the best book you read?

Commencement, by J. Courtney Sullivan.

28. What was your greatest musical discovery?


29. What did you want and get?

We’ll see. I’m actually starting this before Xmas this year, so maybe I’ll get something awesome for Xmas. The State DVDs from my brother and an IOU for a massage from Gene. YAY!

30. What did you want and not get?

Stephen Beckett D.un.n and/or Frances Pearl Du.nn.

31. What was your favorite film of this year?

Up. It could have ended after the opening montage and I would have been OK (a puddle, but OK).

32. What did you do on your birthday?

Mom was in town and she and Gene and I went to a nice dinner. Lovely!

33. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?


34. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2009?

Cheap. Old Navy t-shirts and pants that hopefully fit mostly okay. I have GOT to fix this in 2010 – now that my life is no longer ruled by the idea that I’ll just get pregnant anyway, I have the leeway to change stuff.

35. What kept you sane?

The Almighty D. (In 2010, The Almighty D and Wellbutrin, possibly with a Paxil chaser).

36. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

Blah blah blah Henley c. 1991. Ooh, and David Boreanz from Bones. YUM.

37. What political issue stirred you the most?

Political issue??

38. Who did you miss?

The Boy. The Boy. The Boy. (2008 answer, but I do not feel the need to change it).

40. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2009:

Never buy Zhu Zhu pets on eBay. And vote Yes on honeymoon babies.

41. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

Still working on this one…

2010 has been HUGE already!

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So, 2010 has gone well so far. We woke up early-ish (especially since I was wide awake until 5 am) and I started trying to declutter a teeny bit. I started off with the Crossroads of Clutter (a/k/a our dining room table). My goal was to get to the point where the table only held one thing: a peace lily we were sent after Blanche passed away. Everything went well until I noticed that some of the papers on the table were damp. Hmmm, I thought. Perhaps Gene spilled something when he was working on installing something on a laptop a few weeks ago.

Oh, nooo. Oh no no no no no nooooo. That darn peace lily was leaking – apparently it had died (due to neglect? I hope not) and all the water I’d dumped on it for an unspecified amount of time ended up leaking on things that were on the table.

(HOLY SHIT, I just realized my camera was on that table…oh, fuuuuuuuck. If I ruined our camera…eeeeek!).

I lifted up the peace lily and damn if it wasn’t a gross moldy disaster. Hmm, I think, I wonder how far down this goes? Tentatively, I lift up the table cloth and look at the pad. Also gross and moldy. Now, Gene had told me multiple times to pitch the peace lily, so if that damn thing ruined our dining room table, I would be toast. Even tentatively-ier, I lift up the table pad to look at the table.

Clean as a whistle. Wahoo!

(So, yeah, after I got everything else off the table, I basically gathered the plant, the tablecloth and the pad and scooped it up and into the outside garbage. Au revoir, peace lily and tablecloth that matched my dishes!)

(And then I went on eBay and bought a new pad – $23 is cheap peace of mind when the alternative is trying to replace a table that has been used less than 50 times in 10 years).

(And in even better news, Chick-Fil-A gave us a free milkshake!)

A new record…

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So, the Xmas music started today at work.

Congratulate me – I made it to 9:15 before making a face about the annoying music. (The song was “Hey Santa” by the Wilson Sisters).

Only 19 days to go!

In other news, yes, I *DID* sing along to Darlene Love’s “Christmas (Baby Please Come Home)” when that came on. I’m not a total grinch 🙂


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Thank heavens for Facebook. And for a husband who is far, far better at empathy than his wife. (And wasn’t mad when we overslept this morning, whoops).

7 years…

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So, seven years ago today Gene and I got married. Just about everyone who reads this blog was there and like I said on Facebook, I am so thankful that everyone I love in the world was there. I have the pictures to prove it 🙂 This time 7 years ago, Gene and I sat at our dining room table alone, ate leftovers from the buffet (I hated our caterer but I was so glad that there was food in the house!) and opened our presents. We had a zillion hour drive to WDW the next day and I wrote Thank you notes on the way.

That entire weekend was really nice. Gene’s brother and his wife showed up on Thursday (?), my friend Tracy showed up that day too – we went to the mall and spent a lot of money at the Clinique counter in hopes that I’d learn how to do my makeup via osmosis. (I think I forced Tracy to eat barbeque for lunch… what a sport!)

Later on Thursday we had a huge crowd at the house and grilled steak. My SIL made blue cheese stuffed zucchini and oh, that was yummy. Admittedly it’s fuzzy now – I’m going to guess that Friday was my bachelorette party (and Gene’s bachelor party – hey, Brandy, remember Gene’s brother trying to run us off the road in a rental minivan?). By then Brandy and Julie and Amanda had showed up. Awesome. All the women (except my stepgrandmother and a few others – maybe my Aunt Lyn?) went out for Mexican food and then the younger crew went to Dave & Busters. We danced a little, we drank a little, we played a little pool. The only rule was that I did not want anything waggling in my face. Impressively, no one tried me on that one.

Saturday: rehearsal, rehearsal dinner at a Creole restaurant. The rehearsal dinner was financed by my family, which is good because if we’d had to buy you all would have been lucky to get two slices of pizza. (A word on the wedding budget: you start off a year before the wedding buying the cheapest shoes possible and the day before the wedding you basically walk around with your Visa in your hand, just offering anyone money to just…make…problems…go…away! To wit, see above re: Clinique counter).

Anyway. Sunday, the big day. Awesome. Brandy gave a reading and I didn’t promise to obey anyone. (The minister wouldn’t have let it happen anyway).

Oh, hey, the minster! He walked into the dressing room where Gene was waiting (nervously…) and told him that I’d told him that Gene was going to recite his vows from memory. (This is funny because I pieced together the entire ceremony and I’m pretty sure Gene had only memorized “I do” and may have not even read it)

Hee!!  The minister = expensive, but worth it. (Especially since our other options were getting married in prison or at City Hall, neither of which was a valid choice for multiple reasons).

And in conclusion, I married Gene seven years ago today. It was a good day and I’m glad we’re married. And gladder yet that we will never have to do that again.

Gene has discovered Pogo.com

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…and we should all be nervous.

So, he is playing WordJong (to try and earn my weekly badge). This game is like MahJongg but you have to spell words instead of match animal shapes. “Is Godfart a word?”

Scandalized, I reply “NO!”

“Are you sure? Godforsaken is a word.”

“Okay, it’s two words but still, I don’t think it’ll count according to Pogo.”

Gene smiles. “Google will decide.”

And it turns out, he’s a little bit right.

‘ears the thing…

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Because I know you are all waiting with baited breath for an update on Elaine’s Ears, here it is!

Now ‘righty’ is pissed off at all the attention ‘lefty’ has received and has chosen to take it out on me.  Owwwwwww. (Righty, don’t have a tantrum. Use your words!) I emailed D at work today and asked if she had any good drugs because I’d like to be pain free when I use my letter opener to perform an emergency eardrum-ectomy. (She very kindly offered me her last Advil instead, which I took her up on).

25 Things, a crosspost from Facebook

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1) I blog at laineyd.com. (I know, Duhhh right?)
2) I just found a problem with around 900 of my employer’s W-2s for 2008. I hope my boss remembers this the next time I forget to do something minor. (I talk about W-2s a lot this time of year, it’s just a weird thing about me)
3) I don’t always like my job – okay, I almost never like my job – but I am inexplicably committed to it.
4) When my husband is out of town I spend a lot of time on Pogo.com.
5) Okay, I do that when he’s in town too.
6) I also try to spend time reading and writing.
7) I finished The Time Travelers Wife earlier this week and cried like a baby.
8) When I was on vacation in Kuala Lumpur, I read 6 books. It was like a dream.
9) I have a degree in journalism but I have never, ever used it.
10) July will mark the 10th anniversary of graduating from college.
11) January marks the 8th anniversary of being a payroll clerk.
12) The above two facts are just sad.
13) I don’t have any children, but I have a stepson and two dogs. My husband says I can have three dogs and no babies or two dogs and one baby.
13A) It’s probably time to just get a third dog
13B) If for some reason we had triplets, would I have to get rid of the dogs?
14) I miss Indiana. I like where I live now and I love our house and our life, but I do miss Indiana.
15) I wish I’d stuck to my guns and voted for Stephen Colbert in November. Obama still won even without my vote. Heck, I don’t think my state ever officially was “called” either way.
16) 2009 feels a little bit like 1993 (the year Bill Clinton was sworn in as POTUS), but not quite as “It’s a wonderful whole new world!” as it was then. Then again, I was a teenager in 1993 and now I’m an adult. Makes sense I’d see things differently.
17) As I said above, I love living here (a large city in the Southeastern region of the US) but I hate it when people suggest everyone here is a hick. Southerners aren’t stupid.
18) For cryin’ out loud, they invented sweetened ice tea. How dumb could they be?
19) I lie about my age, but I do it humorously. I change my age frequently. It’s gotten to the point where even my own dad doesn’t know my real age. (31 going on 32)
20) My little brother just turned 29, so I am going to start telling people that we are fraternal twins.
21) I don’t know if my dad will buy that, though.
22) I love to do math in my head. I can’t sum big numbers but I do pretty well.
23) My high school senior prom was the only school dance I went to in high school.
24) I don’t know if I’ll ever have a kid, but if I do, I’d want her to grow up just like me.
25) Or else become a cheerleader. For real.

an aside…

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So, one of the days I was in KL, laineyd.com hit a new record for highest number of hits in a single day, beating the previous record on July 22 (I remember the date only because it’s Don Henley’s birthday and who can forget that? It’s like how my anniversary is the same as Bastille Day or how my high school boyfriend’s birthday is also World AIDS Day, which is also today).

(Speaking of which, Happy 30th Birthday)

(And way to rock the cradle, young Elaine)

Anyway, since I can’t seem to get the new design for my site (for reasons too annoying to get into), I will instead link to the design teaser. Cute, huh?

(speaking of which, would someone please look at the link above using Internet Explorer? It looks different in Firefox and Safari – Safari doesn’t look correct, Firefox does – and I only use IE at work and LIKE HELL I’m going to Dooce myself so obviously)

OK, fine, since I spent my entire lunch hour venting w/ poor D, I will continue to vent here… All I want is my cute blog template. It’s so cute and it’s exactly what I want (ie, a cute new blog design in blue with stripes) and I am SO annoyed that it’s not here already. Seriously. I can’t get emails from her on GMail, and as such I don’t know if she got my emails suggesting she email it to my Roadrunner email. I know it’s not malicious, but, UGH.

(Guess who’s having a temper tantrum?)